Wednesdays GRATEFUL post

What are you grateful for?

Ok here it is the ‘GRATEFUL’ series…. every Wednesday we are doing a

“What are YOU grateful for?” post

 

This is so powerful!  We can talk for days on end about the things that aren’t going right, the troubles we face here and there and how crap everything can be, but instead let’s get into the habit of being grateful.

Today I am grateful for… CONNECTION

I have been meeting some pretty amazing women lately and I am so grateful for connection.  Being able to meet someone new and take interest in what they are doing and hearing about their goals and visions on how they want to do their bit to leave their footprints on the sands of time.  I love being able to meet a ‘stranger’ and then all of a sudden you have a new best friend.  I have been meeting so many ‘Soul Sistas‘ I call them, it’s like I knew them in another lifetime (I totally did!) I am grateful that we live in a world of 2 degrees of separation now thanks to social media and you could be tweeting one day and the next minute your having a coffee!  How cool is that!  Connection is what it’s all about and my new goal is to meet and connect to as many people as I can while I am here.

 

This is something I need a reminder of myself, so these post will be about gratitude.

*** If your grateful for something please feel free to share it with me on the comments below, it is actually amazing to write what you’re grateful for!

 

Big love Queens x E

Confidence- What is it really and how do you get it?

You bet!

We have all heard it before, or maybe we have even been the one to say it: “I wish I was more confident” or “How is it that you have so much confidence?”

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines confidence as this:

•  a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something 
• a feeling or belief that someone or something is good or has the ability to succeed at something
• the feeling of being certain that something will happen or that something is true

So how do we relate this to our image? As women this is the Holy Grail; most women seek to be more confident or to appear confident. Why is this something so many of us seek yet so little have acquired?
I have a belief that we have the word and meaning of confidence all wrong.   When I used to think of confidence I would think, do I have the balls to stand in front of a crowd of people and speak, or do I have what it takes to go up to strangers & carry a genuine connected conversation.   The answer to all these questions was no.   I was so worried about being judged that there was no way I would put myself out there and portray confidence.
One of my mentors helped me recently to see things in another perspective. If you would have asked me 2 months ago “Erika, what does being confident mean to you?”  I would have said, “it means, not giving a F*%$ what other people think about you.  Then you are confident.”
In actual fact that is only half the truth. I know today that true confidence requires you to not carry ANY judgement in your soul for others.  When I judge another person I of course feel as if I am being judged as well which then breeds, insecurity, self-confidence issues, lack of self-love, judgment and in extreme cases hate. (I personally think this is where all the B.S. about “ladies being ‘catty’ comes from, it’s total insecure bullsh*t we really want to Love each other!)
SO!  My new definition of confidence says this:

“Confidence is a mindset you embody when all judgment towards yourself and others has gone.”

This is the true meaning of confidence to me, how can you feel 100% confident if you are worrying about what others think about you and vice-versa.  I say; BE YOU, LOVE others and send love to yourself, always….yes, even when you feel like crap.
Send your mind and body love. YOU are number one and if you are full of love that is the only thing you will be able to give back.
So try it out!  Start complimenting other women, start showing YOU some love, go buy yourself something nice, treat yourself to a glass of bubbly for no reason at all! Why not, you deserve it girl x
Big love to you Queen
x E